A proper family consist of a mother and a father. They should be the leaders of their family and direct their children. You see it more often now that in families the children tend to control their parents lives rather than the other way around. There's just something not right about that picture. When a parents focus is mainly driven to their child rather than their spouse, that is when lines begin to blur. I've also seen that mother's try to be their daughter or son's best-friend. I don't think that's very appropriate. You want you child to be comfortable with coming to your for help, however, being their 'best-friend' ruins that mother-child relationship.
The parents should be running the household. I know that you want you child to be able to have everything and every opportunity possible, however, if their crazy schedule and life is causing tension in your home and family then maybe you should cut back a little on the extra curricular activities. I'm not saying that they shouldn't play soccer or take violin lessons, but maybe cut down to one or maybe two extra curricular programs, especially if you have more than one child. This will help a lot with stress and the child running the parents lives.
I know that if you lay down rules in the family and have a good structure and schedule, life will be easier. There will also be less contention among the individual members of the family as well. The bottom line is that parents need to communicate with each other and decide things together as a 'couple' as to what to do with their children. Children are extremely important, but having an eternal and happy marriage between you and your spouse is more important. Remember that the family is only as happy as the parents.
~Don't forget to smile!
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