Parenting is a complicated subject that involves a lot of thought, time, and skill. Being a parent isn't easy and there are lots of things one should know about child rearing before having a child. There are many different ways of raising a child, some of which are right, and some of which are wrong. It is important that the mother and father in present in the home so that the child can benefit from both.
The child needs to have a good balance between their mother and their father. It is important that the child is able to feel loved from both parents. Physical touch is important, a child will feel loved when their dad comes home and kisses them on the cheek and holds them in his arms. The mother needs to be nurturing and loving towards her children, and the best way of showing this love is through physical touch.
There are many ways of parenting and I think that parents have to adjust the way they raise each of their children because not one of them is the same. It is important to find balance in a relationship so that the child isn't being deprived of either the mother nor the father. It is important to look back at how your parents raised you and use some of those good strategies and throw out the bad by creating your own.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
Friday, December 6, 2013
Friday, November 22, 2013
Communication
Communication is key in having a happy and successful relationship. We practice communication more often than we think or may even realize. It is important to understand that one of the main causes of relationships falling apart is due to a lack of communication or miscommunication. If you can practice good communication skills than you should be able to have happier and more successful. A lack of communication is never good because people can misunderstand, people may get offended, and relationships may fall apart.
It is easy for people to misunderstand something you say, so it is very important that you are careful with what you say when you are around your friends or loved ones. More often than not someone may get mad at you for something you said; even though you didn't mean to say it in a way that would offend them. This is why it is important to think before you talk, just to make sure that you are actually conveying what you are meaning.
People tend to get offended too easily. It's understandable, but you need to remember that you choose to be offended. Just because someone does something that you don't like or agree with doesn't always mean that they are offending you on purpose. Don't get angry or offended by someone who honestly didn't intentionally mean to offend you.
It's not worth it for a relationship to fall apart because of a communication problem. Good communication will get you places and help you progress in different aspects of your lives. However, bad communications skills is no good. Work on your communication skills, and try to continue to improve them, because it will benefit not only your life, but the lives of those around you as well. Good communication is key in a healthy, happy, and successful relationship.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
It is easy for people to misunderstand something you say, so it is very important that you are careful with what you say when you are around your friends or loved ones. More often than not someone may get mad at you for something you said; even though you didn't mean to say it in a way that would offend them. This is why it is important to think before you talk, just to make sure that you are actually conveying what you are meaning.
People tend to get offended too easily. It's understandable, but you need to remember that you choose to be offended. Just because someone does something that you don't like or agree with doesn't always mean that they are offending you on purpose. Don't get angry or offended by someone who honestly didn't intentionally mean to offend you.
It's not worth it for a relationship to fall apart because of a communication problem. Good communication will get you places and help you progress in different aspects of your lives. However, bad communications skills is no good. Work on your communication skills, and try to continue to improve them, because it will benefit not only your life, but the lives of those around you as well. Good communication is key in a healthy, happy, and successful relationship.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
Friday, November 15, 2013
Stressors Vs. Crisis'
A Crisis and a Stressor are two different things, both of which affect the family, but affect the family in two different ways. One might wonder what the difference is between a Stressor and Crisis. Lets talk about a what a stressor is. A stressor is when something happens to a family or an individual family that causes stress or troublesome thoughts and feelings. It does not necessarily cause the family to change, no family member roles are shifted.
A Crisis is when something happens that dramatically affects the family to where changes in family roles may need to be changed. An example of this is when parent passes away especially while children are still living at home. The other parent is going to have to take on more responsibility, maybe take on a job or even two jobs to provide for the family. The children are going to have to be more self-reliant and possibly take over things at home more. The children would most likely have to take more care of each other rather then relying on their parents to be the nurturers.
You can conclude that a Crisis is more severe because it causes actual affect and change within the family. However, stressors can cause a lot of changes in the family as well; maybe not actual physical changes but maybe changes that might include adjustments in rules, church related topics, and other common stressful situations that everyone has to deal with it. Whether you and your family is going through a Crisis or a Stressor just remember to stay positive and do what's best for the family. The last thing you want is a broken family.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
A Crisis is when something happens that dramatically affects the family to where changes in family roles may need to be changed. An example of this is when parent passes away especially while children are still living at home. The other parent is going to have to take on more responsibility, maybe take on a job or even two jobs to provide for the family. The children are going to have to be more self-reliant and possibly take over things at home more. The children would most likely have to take more care of each other rather then relying on their parents to be the nurturers.
You can conclude that a Crisis is more severe because it causes actual affect and change within the family. However, stressors can cause a lot of changes in the family as well; maybe not actual physical changes but maybe changes that might include adjustments in rules, church related topics, and other common stressful situations that everyone has to deal with it. Whether you and your family is going through a Crisis or a Stressor just remember to stay positive and do what's best for the family. The last thing you want is a broken family.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
Friday, November 8, 2013
Keeping a Successful Marriage
In order to keep a happy and successful marriage there needs to be total honesty. You need to be comfortable with your spouse to where you can openly communicate about certain things. Communication is key to having a happy and successful marriage; or any relationship in that matter. We need to be setting aside a certain amount of time each day for our spouse. Once the children come and jobs are established or whatever marriage brings you, you will be busy. It is crucial to be able to set aside time for each other and go out on an actual date at least twice a month.
Making time for your spouse is important because if you don't make time for them then you cannot keep that romantic relationship going. Woman can get used to not having sex after certain periods of time. This can draw a wedge between husband and wife. If you want a happy and successful marriage you need to stay clear of that wedge that draws couples apart. Keep in mind what your spouse wants, and learn to compromise and compassionately communicate one with another. If you do these simple things you can have a happier and more successful marriage.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
Making time for your spouse is important because if you don't make time for them then you cannot keep that romantic relationship going. Woman can get used to not having sex after certain periods of time. This can draw a wedge between husband and wife. If you want a happy and successful marriage you need to stay clear of that wedge that draws couples apart. Keep in mind what your spouse wants, and learn to compromise and compassionately communicate one with another. If you do these simple things you can have a happier and more successful marriage.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
Friday, November 1, 2013
Enduring Love
There are many transitions in marriage that couples should really think about and discuss before getting married. Before marrying the person you think you want to marry, you need ask questions about the future and put yourselves in situations where you can really see how the other person would react. You don't want to end up marrying someone who ends up only wanting one child as opposed to wanting four like you do. You need to make sure that you know what they expect out of you in marriage as well as when your raising your family. Does the future husband expect his wife to work and put the children in day care? or does he expect his wife to stay home? Do you expect your future husband to work every day and do everything he can to provide for you, even if that means working two jobs? These are the kinds of questions you should really explore and bring up before marriage and maybe even before engagement.
There are many challenges that a couple is likely to encounter during their first month of marriage. A challenge that comes to mind is having the ability to share things and work as a unit as opposed to an individual. A husband and wife are supposed to work together in all they do; this can be a very tricky transition because we aren't use to having to do everything with another person.
I found a great video about enduring through life and never leaving your spouses side. Marriage isn't about being selfish and self-centered. It is about putting yourself aside and being there every step of the way for the one you love. This video illustrates the importance of love and care for one another in a healthy and successful marriage. If you are not willing to put yourself aside and be there one hundred percent and one hundred percent of the time, then you are not fully committed to that person. Marriage is all about transitions, it is up to us to find that special someone who can endure all those challenges and changes together.
Enduring Love
~Don't Forget to Smile!
There are many challenges that a couple is likely to encounter during their first month of marriage. A challenge that comes to mind is having the ability to share things and work as a unit as opposed to an individual. A husband and wife are supposed to work together in all they do; this can be a very tricky transition because we aren't use to having to do everything with another person.
I found a great video about enduring through life and never leaving your spouses side. Marriage isn't about being selfish and self-centered. It is about putting yourself aside and being there every step of the way for the one you love. This video illustrates the importance of love and care for one another in a healthy and successful marriage. If you are not willing to put yourself aside and be there one hundred percent and one hundred percent of the time, then you are not fully committed to that person. Marriage is all about transitions, it is up to us to find that special someone who can endure all those challenges and changes together.
Enduring Love
~Don't Forget to Smile!
Friday, October 25, 2013
Preparing for Marriage
Preparing for marriage is a huge deal. It isn't just something that you can do overnight; no matter what anyone says. Marriage is a huge step in life and it should not, nor is it intended to be taken lightly. In order to prepare yourself for marriage your need to put yourself out there and date! By dating I don't mean group dates, I mean dates that follow the three P rule. Paired off, Paid for, and Planned. We need to remember that we marry who we date, so be sure that you are only dating people that you are actually interested in and could potentially see yourself in the future with.
We need to prepare ourselves personally while dating as well. We need to develop habits and skills that will benefit not only ourselves but our future families and spouses as well. If your are not dating anyone currently, take advantage of that time to work on yourself; work on becoming a better person and work on developing your gifts and talents. Somehow in the right due time, a man or women will come into your life and notice and be attracted to those specific gifts and talents.
Getting married and having a family is extremely important to our Heavenly Father. He wants to send his sons and daughters to parents with healthy marriages and to parents who will raise those children to be strong and righteous people. It is our obligation and duty to raise a strong generation, a generation that can be brave and stand up to the future and things that are to come. This is all starts with a happy and healthy marriage.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
We need to prepare ourselves personally while dating as well. We need to develop habits and skills that will benefit not only ourselves but our future families and spouses as well. If your are not dating anyone currently, take advantage of that time to work on yourself; work on becoming a better person and work on developing your gifts and talents. Somehow in the right due time, a man or women will come into your life and notice and be attracted to those specific gifts and talents.
Getting married and having a family is extremely important to our Heavenly Father. He wants to send his sons and daughters to parents with healthy marriages and to parents who will raise those children to be strong and righteous people. It is our obligation and duty to raise a strong generation, a generation that can be brave and stand up to the future and things that are to come. This is all starts with a happy and healthy marriage.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
Saturday, October 19, 2013
Gender Roles
Gender roles amongst this generation are becoming unclear and it just may very well be causing problems within families. You are either born male or female; there is no in between. Children grow up depending on their parents to teach them male and female roles. Down below there is a YouTube video that talks about how children at a young ages know that women are supposed to be nurturers, and that men are supposed to be protectors, providers, and presiders. They know the difference between man and woman, and they know for themselves whether they are boys or girls. The environment plays a great role in influencing someone to choose to be gay or lesbian; it is clear that you are not born gay or lesbian; it is a choice you make later on after being born.
The second video talks about how we live in a generation of dissolving gender roles in the family. Men are acting as providers and nurturers as well as women acting as providing and nurturers. When this happens children grow up not learning or understanding what their roles are in future families and marriages. Families were intended to be set up so that the father takes care of the family, while the mother stays home and takes care of her children. Heavenly Father blesses parents with his children; children are supposed to be the greatest gift of all, and woman are repaying him by going to work and having strangers raise their children instead. What the point of having kids? That's not fair to the child or Heavenly Father. If you aren't going to take the time to raise your children that you have been blessed with, then take it upon yourself to not have them.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
Gender rolls-Interview with kids
Generation of Dissolving Gender Roles
The second video talks about how we live in a generation of dissolving gender roles in the family. Men are acting as providers and nurturers as well as women acting as providing and nurturers. When this happens children grow up not learning or understanding what their roles are in future families and marriages. Families were intended to be set up so that the father takes care of the family, while the mother stays home and takes care of her children. Heavenly Father blesses parents with his children; children are supposed to be the greatest gift of all, and woman are repaying him by going to work and having strangers raise their children instead. What the point of having kids? That's not fair to the child or Heavenly Father. If you aren't going to take the time to raise your children that you have been blessed with, then take it upon yourself to not have them.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
Gender rolls-Interview with kids
Generation of Dissolving Gender Roles
Friday, October 11, 2013
The Way We're Raised
Each and every family has it's own unique culture. I grew up very differently than my best friend, and she grew up differently than her next door neighbor; we're all different. There are many different cultures all around the world, cultures with different beliefs and religions; depending on that type of culture you grow up in will influence the kind of person you will turn out to be.
There are definitely cultures that are not morally right, which would automatically make the people who are raised in those families and cultures to be morally wrong as well. However, if you think about it, those people who are born into families and cultures have no choice of how they are raised. In some ways it isn't their fault. It is however, once a certain age is reached, their obligation to break free from morally unjust things.
It is our obligation as sons and daughter of a loving Heavenly Father to be a good influence to those who are needing the gospel of Jesus Christ in their lives. We are all sent here on this earth for a specific reason and purpose. We need to be kind-hearted towards others no matter what and treat them the way our Father in Heaven would treat them. We have no right to judge. We are all brought up a certain way according to our families and previous generations. Once we reach a certain age we need to decide for ourselves what truly is right or wrong.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
There are definitely cultures that are not morally right, which would automatically make the people who are raised in those families and cultures to be morally wrong as well. However, if you think about it, those people who are born into families and cultures have no choice of how they are raised. In some ways it isn't their fault. It is however, once a certain age is reached, their obligation to break free from morally unjust things.
It is our obligation as sons and daughter of a loving Heavenly Father to be a good influence to those who are needing the gospel of Jesus Christ in their lives. We are all sent here on this earth for a specific reason and purpose. We need to be kind-hearted towards others no matter what and treat them the way our Father in Heaven would treat them. We have no right to judge. We are all brought up a certain way according to our families and previous generations. Once we reach a certain age we need to decide for ourselves what truly is right or wrong.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
Friday, October 4, 2013
A Properly Structured Family
A proper family consist of a mother and a father. They should be the leaders of their family and direct their children. You see it more often now that in families the children tend to control their parents lives rather than the other way around. There's just something not right about that picture. When a parents focus is mainly driven to their child rather than their spouse, that is when lines begin to blur. I've also seen that mother's try to be their daughter or son's best-friend. I don't think that's very appropriate. You want you child to be comfortable with coming to your for help, however, being their 'best-friend' ruins that mother-child relationship.
The parents should be running the household. I know that you want you child to be able to have everything and every opportunity possible, however, if their crazy schedule and life is causing tension in your home and family then maybe you should cut back a little on the extra curricular activities. I'm not saying that they shouldn't play soccer or take violin lessons, but maybe cut down to one or maybe two extra curricular programs, especially if you have more than one child. This will help a lot with stress and the child running the parents lives.
I know that if you lay down rules in the family and have a good structure and schedule, life will be easier. There will also be less contention among the individual members of the family as well. The bottom line is that parents need to communicate with each other and decide things together as a 'couple' as to what to do with their children. Children are extremely important, but having an eternal and happy marriage between you and your spouse is more important. Remember that the family is only as happy as the parents.
~Don't forget to smile!
The parents should be running the household. I know that you want you child to be able to have everything and every opportunity possible, however, if their crazy schedule and life is causing tension in your home and family then maybe you should cut back a little on the extra curricular activities. I'm not saying that they shouldn't play soccer or take violin lessons, but maybe cut down to one or maybe two extra curricular programs, especially if you have more than one child. This will help a lot with stress and the child running the parents lives.
I know that if you lay down rules in the family and have a good structure and schedule, life will be easier. There will also be less contention among the individual members of the family as well. The bottom line is that parents need to communicate with each other and decide things together as a 'couple' as to what to do with their children. Children are extremely important, but having an eternal and happy marriage between you and your spouse is more important. Remember that the family is only as happy as the parents.
~Don't forget to smile!
Friday, September 27, 2013
Cohabitation Before Marriage
Cohabitation before marriage seems to be the new "trend" among this generation, and I'm afraid that it will be even more popular in uprising generations. People seem to think that living together before marriage is a good idea because it will help them to understand how it will be like to live with their partner before actually settling down. They are afraid of making the commitment to "tie the knot". In some ways, yes, you will get to see how you live with your companion before you marry them. However, studies show that cohabitation before marriage actually raises your percentage and chance of divorce after marriage. There are many factors that can lead to divorce among many married couples. Not always, but more often than not, one of the causes leading to a couples divorce is simply, cohabitation.
How can we ensure a happier marriage? Well, if a man asks a woman to live with him, say no. One of the main points of marriage is to experience new things. If you live with someone before you marry them, then once you actually do or "if" you get married...what changes? What's the point of even marrying someone...I mean you already live with the person, so why even make the commitment?
If you are seeking for a happy and successful marriage, do not live with the other person before marrying them. It's as simple as that. Don't forget that we can all "for the most part" pick our futures, we can decide who we want to spend forever with. Don't spoil the future by risking your marriage just to live with someone before getting hitched.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
How can we ensure a happier marriage? Well, if a man asks a woman to live with him, say no. One of the main points of marriage is to experience new things. If you live with someone before you marry them, then once you actually do or "if" you get married...what changes? What's the point of even marrying someone...I mean you already live with the person, so why even make the commitment?
If you are seeking for a happy and successful marriage, do not live with the other person before marrying them. It's as simple as that. Don't forget that we can all "for the most part" pick our futures, we can decide who we want to spend forever with. Don't spoil the future by risking your marriage just to live with someone before getting hitched.
~Don't Forget to Smile!
Family Relations Fall 2013 Student Names & Blogs
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• Amber Kranc
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• Bailey Baird
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• Elisse Cook
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• Emily Hayes
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• Haley Lucas
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• Julie Moss
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• Kaylonnie White
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• Kelsey Murphy
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• Laura Hudgins
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• McKayla Nicole
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• Michael Watts
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• Olivia Welch
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• Patrick Williams
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• Rachel Blaylock
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• Rachel Escobar
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• Sammi Scott
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• Tamara Handa
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• Tina Trepanier
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• Tod Flory
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Clarissa Beamer
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Ailli Brown
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Brandi Cash
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Kylee Goodworth
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Mallary Goude
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Emily Hayes
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Allison Hughes
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Hannah Joyce
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Jonathon Mann
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Allison McClellan
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Michaela Ostler
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Linda Plate
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Lindy Provost
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Whitney Reed
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Miriam Rios-Reyes
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Sammi Scott
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Titan Sweeten
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Kim Tafua
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Olivia Welch
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Thursday, September 19, 2013
My Family
My family is extremely important to me because they help me every step of the way in my journey through life. I would do anything for them, just as they would for me. I wouldn't be where I am in my life without my loving and supporting family. They are the people who make me smile and make me feel like I belong. Without them I wouldn't be who I am today.
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